How to Cope With a Relationship Breakup

Are you wondering how to cope with a relationship breakup? You are not alone. All around the world there are people from all walks of life dealing with broken hearts and wounded pride. No matter which pain you are feeling most acutely at the moment it's a good idea to address both your heart and your pride when learning how to cope with a relationship breakup.

For better or worse your relationship has ended and you are now left reeling from the impact this fact is having on your life. Most of us don't realize how much of our lives are really wrapped up into our relationships or that other special someone until suddenly they are no longer there. Learning how to cope with a relationship breakup is often exacerbated because you are coping with so many new emotions, sensations, and experiences all at once. The longer the relationship lasted the more new thins you are going to need to contend with.

Hold your head up high. Your relationship has ended. Unless you've done something terribly wrong that the entire world knows about there's no need to be ashamed over this fact. It happens. It probably happens more often than any of us would care to admit. It's difficult enough to go through without inviting shame that shouldn't be part of the equation.

Stay visible. Get out there and participate. Be a joiner. Get involved. Make sure that you are busy whenever possible so that you aren't spending your time pining away over your lost love. You want to be seen by the world as whole and complete and not as someone who is simply devastated and shell shocked.

Break Up and How to Cope

How do you cope with break up when you have built your world around your ex and now that the relationship is over you feel completely lost and alone?

Chances are that you will have let friendships slide because you wanted to spend most if not all of your time with your ex.

When you are in love you seem to be magnetically drawn to the other person and although you don't deliberately neglect your friends it is not uncommon to suddenly find yourself isolated when you break up with a partner.

Your social life probably now revolves around things you and your ex enjoyed doing together and even if that involved socialising with friends, it will be awkward now that you are no longer part of a couple.

So no matter what the circumstances of your break up, you will probably feel pulled to try and still spend time with your ex, partly because you just want to be around them and partly because you feel like you don't have any other options.

It's natural to think that being around your ex and socialising around them has got to be less painful and miserable than stopping in with nothing but your thoughts.

But this is not the case. It may be less painful in the very short term, but it will not help you to move on and start to re-build your own social circle. How difficult will it be to be in the company of your ex and not be able to be with them, share private moments and shared glances.

There is nothing worse than putting yourself in this position and if your ex is a particularly nice person, they may well be giving you false hope of re-kindling the relationship just because they do not want to hurt your feelings anymore than they already have.

No, you need time and space to lick your wounds and you should not feel bad about indulging yourself in a short bout of misery - too long and it will be counter- productive and more difficult to climb out of.